Regular commenter “Groan” posted some particularly insightful comments in response to the South Korea #MeToo story (South Korean women are being shunned in the office) we posted earlier this afternoon. We thought they merited a blog piece in their own right. He writes:
Well in watching the “Pestminister” story unfold I was struck by the similarity with my experience. Women find it incredibly hard to take responsibility, to “own” their issue. This means they leap to “procedure” or “policy” in an attempt to get someone else to address their beef. I think genuinely they don’t consider how disloyal and duplicitous this is. Hence so many of the men accused are genuinely taken aback at accusations from former colleagues or even those they thought friends (remember all “incidents” were in fact years past).
In my experience women quickly go “nuclear” to avoid directly addressing the smallest issue, with the most trivial motivation, and because they haven’t in fact any empathy with ideas of honesty or loyalty, they are genuinely completely at a loss at any adverse reaction.
I think this is why the advent of social media has proven so dangerous. As it gives an opportunity to make an accusation then “hide” amongst the “Twitter storm”. Almost none of the Pestminister “list” has resulted in any official complaint, because of course an investigation might involve such cowards in “put up or shut up”.
I hope “Pestminster” and “#MeToo” has taught men how very dangerous women are. In a sense it’s not their fault. They will never have been taught responsibility, because they never feel the consequences of their actions. They are dangerous precisely because they are literally irresponsible.