Our thanks to Nigel for this. He writes:
“Wow. Here’s a surprise. Actually asking men. “Andy” the first view printed sums it up well:
“I’m expected to put the vast majority of effort into dating. I take the risk of rejection in doing the asking out, I arrange the date, usually carry the conversation, frequently am expected to pay, then this process repeats for future dates. The majority of women I met seemed to think turning up was all that’s required for me to ‘woo’ them.”
As he says “articles like this complaining about men while making out that women are great sum up why.” men don’t want to put themselves through such events. Unsurprisingly those that report how they met their partner/wife refer to shared activity. If you think about it precisely what one would expect from men’s preferred communication style! No wonder in reality the place most people meet their partner is work or sports or hobbies etc. Not some “Job interview” format where they’re quite likely to be rejected. As one says if its been a good afternoons activity and you’re rejected at least you had a good time. However no doubt the “amazing” women will continue with singles nights and continue to blame men for not turning up to them. Definitely not actually asking men what might attract them.”
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This is brilliant. We need more like this. Around ten years ago, my late brother and I went on matchmaking sites, as a kind of experiment. We’d discuss our experiences and findings when we met up regularly. (He lived nearby.) We concluded that women on these sites fall into the following categories: 1) Women who just want to interact with men online. They have no interest in actually meeting someone. 2) Women who just want a series of first dates, which lead nowhere. Or an occasional date when they’re free. It leads nowhere. 3) Women who you suspect don’t exist. They never get back to you, or respond to anyone. It’s not just you. 4) The genuine ones. They’re genuinely interested in establishing a relationship with the right man. But you have to be a little bit psychic to figure out which ones they are.
I’m much older now, and I can’t be bothered any more with these modern ways that don’t seem to work. Meet someone “organically”. Allow things to happen. And if nothing happens? Keep calm and carry on. Life is like that sometimes. There is a young lady I’m fond of, and she’s fond of me. It doesn’t look like it’s leading anywhere, and I’m okay with that. I’m not pushing things.
As for speed dating, singles nights, and the like… what a horrible idea! “I’m out.”
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This is interesting on the decline of feminism in Korea (south) and Japan. Basically two different forms of marriage strike by young men https://youtu.be/1pcFoklVV4U?si=eHWxZvqwMzfwDSlF
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