Our thanks to Sean for this. Extracts:
Clearly, we’re going wrong somewhere. Men are socialised to feel ownership over women’s bodies, regardless of their pain or happiness. Women are conditioned to accept degrees of male aggression, and will often temper their response knowing that they risk being seriously hurt or even killed if they fail to comply… [J4MB: And the frequency with which husbands seriously hurt or kill their wives after being denied sex would be…?]
Consent can’t begin and end with dates. Consent can’t be the absence of a “no”. It can’t be an extra. It can’t be a one-off check. Consent [J4MB: From women only, presumably] has to be affirmative and enthusiastic every single time, from the first time to the last time. [J4MB emphasis]
The writer of the idiotic piece in the Independent is Hera Hussain. At the end of the piece:
Hera Hussain is the founder of chayn.co, a tech for good project supporting women and non-binary people experiencing domestic abuse [J4MB: She appears to have missed out men experiencing domestic abuse. We’ll get in touch with her, to alert her to her slip.]
The stated ethos of ‘Chayn’:
Everything that Chayn does has originated from a burning passion for gender equality, and for the emancipation and empowerment of women against overwhelming tides of patriarchy, oppression and abuse. Everything that Chayn does is to protest the patriarchal and misogynistic culture that still permeates the society. We don’t want to just speak out, but also act to stop it.