Earlier today we posted a link to a piece by Jeannette Kupferman. Danuta Gruca-McGill responded with the following. We thank her for her permission to reproduce her text, and for her agreement that we use her real name.
What a powerful piece of writing and thinking by Jeannette Kupferman against feminism and the difficult world it has created for us all. It should be essential reading for all teenage girls.
It never ceases to amaze me that the Feminist Movement managed to brainwash such vast swathes of women to the degree that they go against and are in denial about their natural instincts to make Motherhood and Family their priority.
I’ve never been a lemming, I’ve always been very secure in myself and I don’t give a damn that I live differently to so many women today.
I have lived my life according to my own instincts and not pressured by “group think” and feel totally at peace as I’ve lived a life true to myself.
But then again I’ve been lucky and it’s been possible as I’ve been supported by a decent male who agrees in this lifestyle choice.
My husband is an only child, a product of a working mother, at a time when most women didn’t work.
She was obsessive, worked long hours, came home, my husband was shoved off to bed at the earliest opportunity so then she could spend the evening obsessively house working.
He was a latch key kid, spent summer holidays on his own, lonely, and said he didn’t want his kids to go through what he went through.
I feel none of this working mother guilt and stress as I know I’ve “done right” by the most important people in my world – my family.
The sad thing is there may be many women who desperately want to be at home with their children, but we’ve created a world where it is financially impossible for them to do so.
The harsh reality is so many women have to go out to work not through some feminist leaning but through sheer financial necessity.
Britain for decades has fallen in love with materialism and consumerism and that costs and has to be paid for. And the system we live in doesn’t want that to change.
Feminism tries to paint women such as I as tied to the kitchen sink and lacking in freedom, but I feel I’m the one who is truly free.
I can pick and choose what I do every day and in what order.
I can put in as many hours or as few hours in every day as I see fit.
I have total free rein in the most meaningful area of my life – as to everything that goes on in the home and the direction the family takes.
I don’t feel guilty that I don’t contribute financially as I accept that I contribute and am of value massively in a different way.
My work-centred husband would be doing exactly the same job whether I was working or not. And if you can live on one salary comfortably then why be greedy and put extra strain and stress on a family by the female being out at work as well.
Also I hear so many women having problems with pregnancies, childbirth and the menopause and I’m convinced it’s because they are so over stretched.
I’ve sailed through all of these and I’m convinced it’s because I’m so relaxed in myself as I’m living the life that women should really be living.
All the Best
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