Our thanks to David Eggins for this:
Liz Bates, the researcher below, is very much into male victims of domestic violence. She is conducting a “post separation research programme” of men’s experiences of DV. The link is here and below.
Mark Brooks is Chair of the Mankind charity and was recently awarded an OBE – congratulations Mark! – and a real step forward in UK for men and an important piece of recognition for the facts of men’s experiences – Liz Bates is a very firm supporter of Mankind.
The vast majority of domestic abuse, 80% plus, is “situational couple violence” – 560 plus research projects attest to the facts of a gender symmetry. The tendency is for women to “start it” and men to “finish it”. That’s why we ask “our questions” and why Duluth, DVIP, My Time and other “accredited projects” etc avoid such questions!
Men’s “controlling behaviours” are researched at 7 per thousand men before separation, but emerge enormously post separation when they reach an enormous 22% or 220 per thousand. (This is not really surprising when one considers the emotional grief the men experience at the potential loss of everything those men hold dear, particularly their children.)
Women’s “controlling behaviours” 5 per thousand before separation, emerge quite strongly post separation when they reach a large 4.7% or 47 per thousand. (I’d suggest many are spared the same grief of the loss of their children – which would probably account for a great deal of the difference, and they have usually got accommodation, too!) However this figure is very likely to not include “parental alienation” scenarios – which will be part of the vast majority of many of your ongoing problems.
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