Our thanks to Chris for this. Of course few women are prepared to be the principal breadwinner in a household, so when a man loses his job and fails to find another for an extended period, he’s likely to face divorce proceedings before long.
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Justice for Men & Boys 
I notice the article not so subtly blames men, by showing a picture of a man slouching on the sofa boozing and eating junk food.
It mentions that men who are made redundant or are out-earned by their wives are more prone to stress-related illness. Where is the stress coming from? Could it be that wives who are angry at husbands who are no longer useful to them as wage-slaves, become psychologically or even physically abusive?
Now that would be an interesting line of research to follow.
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Having worked in social care and health for over 30 years one gets to see the less appealing sides of human nature. One of these is the rather sad statistics for divorce following a disabling injury at work including in the services. Now the narrative is of course that wives stand by “their man” in “sickness and in health”. I’m afraid in my experience ,and the data, it is quite the reverse, a man disabled in his twenties, thirties and forties in particular will be divorced. In my experience the divorcing wives usually say something like “I didn’t sign up for this” (conveniently forgetting vows). Also in my experience the men also take this fatalistically, as if being “broken” means they have nothing to give. The dynamic is much less marked in later life when being “retired” is perhaps more acceptable.
Because being dependent is a norm for women and the greater rarity of severe disability in the younger generations of women husbands are in fact very much less likely to cast off their spouse/partner.
Of course the irony of this is that the lack of sympathy means men thusly disabled frequently eventually pick themselves up and get going (and I have always been in awe of them) and deservedly attract new partners. One of the big gender “gaps” is between the proportions of disabled men who work and the proportion of disabled women. Of course it is the men who get into work.
In some senses I’m not for some wave of debilitating sympathy for men fallen on all sorts of hard times rather just some honesty in the realities.
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Thanks. An American study we linked to showed men are 10x more likley than women to commit suicide after divorce. Lack of access to children is, of course, a major contributing factor.
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Well said Groan. Been there, done that and actively shirk the sympathy I could never hope to receive. We don’t stop being men who are virtually incapable of asking for help, who often ignore our own problems, but instead see the suffering of others and feel it vicariously, who must try to help if we can, regardless. I often rationalise that many apparently able bodied people shoulder even greater burdens.
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Now the narrative is of course that wives stand by “their man” in
“sickness and in health”. I’m afraid in my experience ,and the data, it
is quite the reverse, a man disabled in his twenties, thirties and
forties in particular will be divorced. In my experience the divorcing
wives usually say something like “I didn’t sign up for this”
(conveniently forgetting vows).
It happens to men who have always being disabled. When wives use them and think of themselves as martyrs for “being so brave”( I had mine use it to elevate her status in society).
Trouble is that if the disability is genetic and they have a child that carries the disability, the wife can often turn on her husband, and when i say turn i mean that harsh words are the least of the abuse you get, violence and injuries are the norm.
I know people like to talk stats about DV in different demographics, but i would to focus on the DV rate against disabled men because even our high and mighty equalities commission produces a report for the mistreatment of disabled people in society conveniently leave out the issue of DV against disabled men , but being quite happy to put in the same said DV against disabled women( where the source came from .. you guessed it … womens aid)
I’m not sure sure we attract new partners( unless its money)- I have never come across so many crazy women who are playing the martyr game or whose demands are so ridiculous that no one would ever touch them( they are of course the broken ones)
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Mind over matter my friends. If you’re already a happy MGTOW or a fellow MHRA who’s taken his RED PILL, once you know that our better role models say that their greatest fulfillment was raising their children, these issues matter not, unless you are a sloth. Raising my daughter [especially for a slightly handicapped man like myself] is excellent exercise and extremely rewarding.
Learn the lessons and consider how to negate the pitfalls, yes, but we already know to be aware of the agendas of corporate media and studies.
Kept man? It’s a state of mind that I couldn’t have. …I welcome a sugar mummy, preferably 15 years younger than my half a century.
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I can personally add my own experience to this one. All through our lives together my ex-wife and I had good well paid middle management jobs. Through our 25 year marriage I made about $15-20K more than her each year and all of our money went into joint accounts. She was forced to retire from her company early (early 50s). About 3 years after her retirement she found a job managing a call center and a year afterward an early retirement package was offered at my company and I took it. This meant that for the first time in our 25 year marriage she was earning more than I was. Suddenly she did not want joint accounts anymore and within 2 years after that divorce proceedings were underway.
From personal experience and all I’ve learned about female nature since then never put yourself in a position where a woman has a higher income than you. It is not a recipe for a stable relationship.
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“Toppled” is a loaded word. Is the breadwinner the leader who is at the top of the family, or is he a marriage partner driven by the family’s needs and demands?
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