The secret to a happy marriage every wife NEEDS to know: Relationship expert reveals how she salvaged her partnership with her husband after he admitted he was profoundly unhappy.

Our thanks to Jeff for this in the Femail section of the Daily Mail. The title I’ve put on this blog piece is, of course, a gender switch.

The writer of the piece – the ‘relationship expert’ – is Harry Benson. Extracts:

When my wife Kate touches the side of her jaw, it’s because it aches. If she stands in a certain way, her sciatica is playing up. These days I notice these tiny inferences that she’s feeling under par.

I listen when she talks, making eye contact, whereas once I would have hidden behind my newspaper grunting intermittently, feigning interest.

Today, I can say that our marriage is robust and joyful: full of laughter, occasional healthy bouts of contention, and above all, love. And the reason is that I’m in tune with Kate. I’ve learned to put her first; to think about her and what she needs. That’s hard to do all the time, but I’m getting better at it.

I’ve learned from my own bitter experience that a marriage can unravel when a husband ceases to care enough about his wife…

I’ve spent the past 20 years teaching thousands of couples how to have a happy marriage and am now research director for Marriage Foundation.

And my formula for fixing things is a simple one: ‘Happy wife, happy life’ is a maxim that is backed by research and has saved my own marriage…

What’s more, when Mum is happy, the rest of the family tend to be happy. This is much less true for dads. It is a simple truth that I have now acknowledged.

When I take responsibility for our marriage, and put Kate first in my pecking order of priorities, the rest will follow.

Nowhere in the article – aimed at women, let us remind ourselves – is there a suggestion that wives have any responsibility for making their husbands happy. It’s little wonder so many women have become Entitlement Princesses, and so many men are MGTOW. The slaves have been walking off the plantation, never to return.

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About Mike Buchanan

I'm a men's human rights advocate, writer, and publisher. My primary focus is leading the political party I launched in 2013, Justice for Men & Boys (and the women who love them). I still work actively on two campaigns I launched in early 2012, Campaign for Merit in Business and the Anti-Feminism League. In 2014 I launched The Alternative Sexism Project, aiming to raise public understanding that the sexism faced by men and boys has far more grievous consequences than the sexism faced by women and girls.
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  • No doubt his wife will be a good housekeeper too. As in keeping the house in a divorce.

    • William Gruff

      Haha. I like that Mr Purdy and will be using it in future. Many thanks.

  • A happy groom makes for a happy womb? 😉

  • William Gruff

    Worshipping and serving the goddess, that’s all we’re meant for. I was particularly struck by the sentences ‘when Mum is happy, the rest of the family tend to be happy. This is much less true for dads. It is a simple truth that I have now acknowledged.

    That really struck a chord with me because it reminded me of my mother: all loving smiles and happiness when she wanted something and thought she was going to get it but a screaming, shrieking, crockery throwing, viciously dysfunctional child when disappointed. Although my recently departed father was a bullying tyrant towards us he lived in fear of upsetting her and I know just what Henry Benson alludes to. I’d recommend a divorce but he may have too much to lose. Poor devil, and admitting to his predicament in such a public way too, simply, I suspect, to see something beneficial in it. If so, he’s fooling no one except himself.