John asks for help

/ Mike Buchanan

I frequently receive heartfelt emails from men – and sometimes women – about the devastating impact of feminism on their lives, and the lives of others. Today I had one such email from a man – it had ‘Help!’ on the subject line – and I post it here with his agreement. The names have been changed.

Dear Mr Buchanan,

I have spent my last 14 years living in hell, with my feminist partner.

She psychologically and mentally abused our son (Paul) over this time, I sought to get help from Social Services, to find there’s an organisation with a clear feminist ideology, they didn’t help us, they tried to force Paul and I to believe that her aggression and behaviour is our fault in some way, it wasn’t at all. Social Services sympathised with the aggressor, and even though it was I that called for help, it was in my ex-partner’s hands as to whether they were involved or not.

She got rid of the Social Services, she was empowered.  Her attitude and aggression got worse, she finally started being physically violent and aggressive.  Over the years her attitude has been very demeaning, over the past 4 years Paul couldn’t bear to be anywhere near her.  He didn’t want her to speak to her.  He knew I was powerless to do anything.

I did eventually get her into court, and she was made to sign an undertaking to not harass Paul and I, but the Social Services are doing all they can, coupled with our renowned feminist school, that is destroying boys like it’s a concentration camp.

My son is having a terrible time at school, where he can be bullied, but has to keep his mouth shut, where girls can say anything and be very unkind, demeaning and treat boys as subservient pathetic individuals.  They enforce this agenda, whilst not responding to his or my concerns as a parent.

He comes home every day, feeling the teachers don’t help when he needs it, then drop him a grade, they call him a liar, they call me a liar, the school are working hand in fist with Social Services to change his attitude, that how he feels about his mother or the school is wrong, and that he must think like a feminist or else.

This is sickening.

What does a man do to protect his son, when the system we are forced to use is completely and utterly feminist?

I can’t sit down and do and say anything, a concerned father, has to do, what he has to do.  Every phone number I call for help is a closed door, there are a few men’s charities, but they have no funds or are suppressed by the media, government, and feminists councils.

I want to do something, but what? The system has my hands tied, the more I try and resist the stronger the hold gets, like it’s a constrictor wrapped around my neck.

This causes me pain, so much pain, other than the pain of my disabilities, what can I do?

I would love to donate and I will, not much, because I haven’t got anything, can’t get a job, because the feminists in the Job Centre only seem to offer manual jobs for men. Being disabled, I cannot do manual work, even though I am highly intelligent, just stuck in a wheel chair.

At the same time I have to deal with feminists in DWP, who want to make my life hell, forcing a disabled man to go back and forth to the job centre, to prove to them I am disabled, even though it’s been documented for over 22 years and the systems are open and accessible.   Just so I can claim what I am entitled to.   I believe this is a result of the Ideology, that all Women should have the good jobs and jobs of stature or authority.

I need someone to help me, not a psychiatrist, which is what the Social Services and the school probably want.   I’d guess the psychiatrist would be on a feminist agenda and call me crazy.  I feel that one building up.

I’m not crazy, it is clear what is going on, everyone can see it, but says nothing, while the feminists continue to cook their recipe.

How can I help? But I also need support and help.

Regards & Merry Christmas.

John

8 thoughts on “John asks for help”

  2. Absolutely heartbreaking, yet sadly unsurprising. I don’t know how old John’s son is, but I would recommend that he introduces his son to some of the Men’s Right content online and shows him that there are like minded others out there, who are trying to lobby for a change in the current feminist climate. Just knowing you’re not alone and having supportive communication available can be a huge boon and might just make it a little easier to keep on toeing the party line during the time he is required to get his education. The Men’s Right movement is growing. The tides are slowing turning and feminism is going to see itself losing its hegemonic grip over society. But until then both John and his son should avail themselves of whatever online support and contact they can, as they weather the inevitable storms on the horizon. Thankfully there are people like Mike, Dean Esmay, Paul Elam, Karen Straughan and Janice Fiamengo among others who are working tirelessly to address the issues John mentions and support IS growing. Finding strength in the online communities is the best thing both John & his son can do right now. It IS going to get better.

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      • A problem with the Samaritans, for men, was reported recently: whether or not it is female neurosis or the training they are given, the mostly female Samaritans helpline advisers often assume that male callers are sexual ‘perverts’ and terminate calls from them.

        My own experience as a caller seeking help, some years ago, left me feeling that the woman I spoke to could not cope at all with my particular crisis and did not want to speak to me. She was useless and after politely thanking her for her help, which was none at all, I hung up.

        The Samaritans is not an organisation I would rely on for help if I find myself in desperate straits. Lots of ’empathy’ for crying and neurotic women, not keen on men driven to the edge. We need male only staffed male only helplines to deal sympathetically with us when we are desperate.

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  5. I agree with William gruff about the samaritans, I don’t feel confident about them( have used them once, i got a listener and no offers of support or organisations that could help)

    and maybe this could explain why
    http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/how-our-service-helps/other-sources-help#sexual

    a look on this page for DV support produces the following
    Scottish Womens Aid – enough said then

    National Domestic Violence Helpline- even worse, perpetuating to be neutral and then you go to the website- it for women only ( their sub headline is “Run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge”)

    “The Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline, run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge, is a national service for women experiencing domestic violence, their family, friends, colleagues and others calling on their behalf.”
    “Helpline relies on funding from Government bodies,”
    isn’t it illegal to provide service only to women as stated here?

    as for the samaritans, so they don’t provide DV support for men then?
    not even a link to mankind

    this from samaritans about us page

    “We receive almost no government funding, so it’s your donations that keep us going.”
    so they obviously receive and yet practice discrimination, I certainly won’t be donating any money to them, nor will I encourage anyone else. Seems they are in major need of a vision, strategy and objective reform.

    Mike, is this worth an article on samaritans?

    with regards to Jon, bbhippo beat me to the idea of the woodalls !
    I would also suggest mankind, see if they know of a dv friendly solictor in Jons area for legal advice about the behaviour of social services, schools,dwp and of course his partner

    nrjnigel – very disapointed with the samaritans claim of being in our corner when they don’t even provide support for men suffering DV.

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