Martin Buckingham writes to Laura Bates

Our thanks to Steve for this. Apparently Laura Bates has written in her Guardian column today that her Everyday Sexism Project accepts stories from men as well as women. We must assume ‘stories from men’ will only be accepted if they relate to anti-female sexism, because this is the key content of Laura’s home page:

The Everyday Sexism Project exists to catalogue instances of sexism experienced by women (our emphasis) on a day to day basis. They might be serious or minor, outrageously offensive or so niggling and normalised that you don’t even feel able to protest. Say as much or as little as you like, use your real name or a pseudonym – it’s up to you. By sharing your story you’re showing the world that sexism does exist, it is faced by women (our emphasis) everyday and it is a valid problem to discuss.

Steve has a friend, Martin Buckingham, who in his spare time likes to write autobiographical limericks. Martin has emailed me the content of the note (below) he’s about to post on the ESP website. I wonder if Ms Bates will pass it for publication?

Laura, you write in a Guardian article today that ESP accepts stories of sexism from men, do you mean stories of anti-female sexism only? I ask because your home page says ‘sexism experienced by women’ and that ‘sexism… is faced by women’. This is clearly anti-male sexism, ironically. Could you please publish this, and email me at if and when you add ‘and men’ after ‘women’? Thank you. In the meantime I’ll have to post my anti-male sexism stories to Have a nice day.

Let’s end with a story from the ESP website:

Leah 2014-02-25 01:14

I receive comments about my appearance on a daily basis from men in the form of “compliments” that just don’t feel flattering. I’m sitting on the bus and a man says “you’d be so much prettier if you smiled”, oh I’m sorry I don’t have a permanent smile glued to my face, but it usually comes out when I’m happy and not trying to look pretty if you’d ever like to see it.

My favourite is when a man says “its a good thing you’re so pretty” this can come after literally anything I say. I honestly think they are trying to be charming saying it by pointing out and complimenting my looks. No it’s not flattering to disregard everything I said by implying that my looks will make up for my stupidity.

You might reasonably think we’ve invented the story, to discredit ESP. Not so. Here’s a screenshot of it on the ESP website, taken a moment ago:

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About Mike Buchanan

I'm a men's human rights advocate, writer, and publisher. My primary focus is leading the political party I launched in 2013, Justice for Men & Boys (and the women who love them). I still work actively on two campaigns I launched in early 2012, Campaign for Merit in Business and the Anti-Feminism League. In 2014 I launched The Alternative Sexism Project, aiming to raise public understanding that the sexism faced by men and boys has far more grievous consequences than the sexism faced by women and girls.
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