Don’t make your kids kiss granny: Outcry as sex education chiefs say a high-five or wave protects children from abuse

What is wrong with some of the people who give advice to teachers, parents etc.? What a dystopic world they’re trying to create, where even grandparents must by default be assumed to be potential sexual predators:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2535633/Dont-make-kids-kiss-granny-Outcry-sex-education-chiefs-say-high-five-wave-safer.html

The start of the piece:

Getting a reluctant child to give an elderly relative a kiss often requires some gentle persuasion. But parents who force their sons and daughters to give granny a peck on the cheek may be doing them harm, it was claimed yesterday. For instead of helping a child learn about showing affection, it may blur the boundaries of what is acceptable when it comes to physical contact, according to Lucy Emmerson, co-ordinator of the Sex Education Forum.

Getting a reluctant child to give an elderly relative a kiss often requires some gentle persuasion. But parents who force their sons and daughters to give granny a peck on the cheek may be doing them harm, it has been claimed. Getting a reluctant child to give an elderly relative a kiss often requires some gentle persuasion. But parents who force their sons and daughters to give granny a peck on the cheek may be doing them harm, it has been claimed.

She even claims that encouraging a youngster to blow a kiss, high-five or wave to a relative instead will help them avoid future sexual exploitation. Children need to learn from the start about the importance of consent and that ‘their bodies are their own’, she says.

Her controversial comments, in an online sex education resource for teachers, were immediately attacked by family campaigners. They said there was no evidence that children who are persuaded to kiss close relatives are more at risk of being sexually exploited later and said her recommendation undermined parents.

About Mike Buchanan

I'm a men's human rights advocate, writer, and publisher. My primary focus is leading the political party I launched in 2013, Justice for Men & Boys (and the women who love them). I still work actively on two campaigns I launched in early 2012, Campaign for Merit in Business and the Anti-Feminism League. In 2014 I launched The Alternative Sexism Project, aiming to raise public understanding that the sexism faced by men and boys has far more grievous consequences than the sexism faced by women and girls.
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  • Humans need physical touch to be happy, content, and especially children to feel loved and protected. Without it no hormones are released that make you bond. They will then want to socialise and make friends. If not they grow up to be cold, uncaring and selfish or introverted, alone and afraid of people. That leads to a big potential social issues. Where do these crazy people get their ideas from. Lucy Emerson, for a sex educator, knows nothing of human nature. She will be saying babies have to consent to be washed by their parents next or have their nappy changed.

    • Thanks John. I agree with the general points you make, other than with respect to, ‘If not they grow up to be cold, uncaring and selfish or introverted, alone and afraid of people.’ As an introvert myself, I can tell you around 50% of men and women have this personality trait, they’re born with it, and there’s little they can do about it even if they wanted to. Personally I wouldn’t trade my introversion for extraversion in a month of Sundays. Let me know if you’d like me to point you to some books on the subject. Some cultures value introversion (e.g. Japan, Scandinavia) while others favour extraversion (e.g. Australia, America, and the UK to a lesser extent). Oh, and without introverts the world would be a far poorer place in terms of the visual arts, literature, science, and many other fields. Few creative people are extraverts.