Here at the J4MB headquarters in Bath we sometimes spend a minute or two during afternoon tea – which starts at 3 p.m. precisely, a pot of Earl Grey leaf tea, McVities Digestives for all the staff, no need to change a winning formula – to review the Google search terms that have led people to our three sites. Sometimes they’re funny, sometimes revealing of people’s interests, and sometimes they’re just plain startling. An example of a startling one drew someone to the J4MB site earlier today:
Paternity fraud, whining men
It’s difficult to imagine this wasn’t Googled by a woman who thinks men faced with evidence of paternity fraud – and most men are unaware they’re victims of fraud, let’s not forget – should simply take on the financial and other responsibilities dumped on them by devious women.
So we thought we’d try the trusty old ‘gender switcheroo’ and see how that looked. What about ‘Maternity fraud, whining women’? Now how might a man cause a female-centred equivalent of paternity fraud? Well, he could frustrate a contraceptive method e.g. by putting a small hole in the end of a condom, in an effort to make his partner pregnant, at a time when she didn’t want to become pregnant. But even if he did, the woman would have choices (other than having the baby and caring for it) that he would have no say over:
– to have an abortion
– to carry to term, and have the baby adopted
Conversely, of course, a woman who commits the commonest form of paternity fraud – often by ‘forgetting’ to take the contraceptive pill – is perfectly free to require the man to support the resulting child financially and otherwise for 18+ years, whether or not she deigns to let him live with them or even see the child. The state will enforce her wishes, regardless of the financial and emotional abuse the man will face.
What of the other form of paternity fraud, where a man’s led by a woman to believe he’s the biological father of a child, when he’s not? Well, a doctor in hospital might swap a mother’s baby for another within a day or two of birth. Hell, they all look identical at that point in time, don’t they? The woman would then face the prospect of bringing up another woman’s baby, possibly for 18+ years.
Now let’s say either form of ‘maternity fraud’ eventually came to the attention of the woman in question. Would she ‘whine’? Dear God, we’d never hear the end of it. In the case of the second form of fraud, I have little doubt the medics in question would serve time in jail. At the very least they’d be struck off their professions’ registers. Conversely while paternity fraud – even attempted paternity fraud – has long been a criminal offence in the UK, not one British woman has ever been convicted of the offence.
Have a good weekend.