‘I lost my children because I have a career’

Why are so many women unwilling to accept that adverse consequences might result from having a successful career? The adverse consequences that men with successful careers have long faced, in fact. Our thanks to Lisa G for sending us this, along with the comment, ‘I’m sick to death of women who want it all, then bitch like little girls when reality slaps them in the face’:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-2511347/I-lost-children-I-career.html

From the article:

According to a report by the Institute for Public Policy Research, women today are more likely to ‘marry down’. This makes sense – women are highly employable, many of them are immensely successful and the pressure to marry a man for financial or social security becomes less important when you can earn enough money yourself. Instead, women marry for many other reasons – the desire to settle down, procreate and, of course, love. However, the breadwinning wife is taking more risks than she realises when it comes to what happens when this type of marriage breaks down.

She faces the prospect of losing a large chunk of her income, her home and, worst of all, her children. This is precisely what has happened to Anna. She and her now ex-husband decided to split up just over two years ago…

Divorce lawyer Marilyn Stowe says, ‘Women need to realise it is now far more common for them to earn more than their husbands. I see countless women who work hard and earn a lot of money, and they have become contemptuous of their stay-at-home partners. Sex and respect go out of the window and they file for divorce, then they are amazed and stunned when their partner wants 50:50 of pretty much everything. This, in turn, amazes and stuns me. Of course this happens. It’s the law of the land.’

Her point is – working women be warned. This rise in the new politics of divorce is here to stay. ‘Women said they wanted equal rights,’ says Stowe, ‘and now they are complaining about it. Men have experienced this system for years.’

Welcome to gender equality, ladies. It’s a double-edged sword.

About Mike Buchanan

I'm a men's human rights advocate, writer, and publisher. My primary focus is leading the political party I launched in 2013, Justice for Men & Boys (and the women who love them). I still work actively on two campaigns I launched in early 2012, Campaign for Merit in Business and the Anti-Feminism League. In 2014 I launched The Alternative Sexism Project, aiming to raise public understanding that the sexism faced by men and boys has far more grievous consequences than the sexism faced by women and girls.
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  • Jericho One

    It’s OK for women to have careers if they accept having a good man stay at home. Stay at home dads are supposed to have the same rights as women in the event of a separation, but in practice, it seldom benefits the man. Maybe something J4M&B could explore…

    • Jericho, many thanks, we’ll give that some thought. I was particularly intrigued by one of the things the female lawyer had to say:

      “I see countless women who work hard and earn a lot of money, and they have become contemptuous of their stay-at-home partners. Sex and respect go out of the window and they file for divorce…”.

      Anyone who doesn’t understand why ‘sex and respect go out of the window’ should read about male and female dominance hierarches in Steve Moxon’s excellent book ‘The Woman Racket’ (2008).

      • Jericho One

        I really need to read that book Mike. I’m not a biological determinist though. We can all achieve more appropriate behaviour with philosophy and the right incentives… Trouble is, our culture only punishes men for bad behaviour and it is not PC to question female shallowness…

        “I see countless women who work hard and earn a lot of money, and they have become contemptuous of their stay-at-home partners. Sex and respect go out of the window and they file for divorce…”

        I do love the way they turn it around and blame men for being afraid of successful women when it’s actually women who despise unsuccessful men. I know several men whose less-than-intelligent wives earn more than they do. It’s all about make-work jobs and social engineering today, there is no meritocracy as far as I can see.

        Have you seen this?:

        http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2263518/I-left-love-life-I-thought-I-better-Now-Im-childless-42.html#axzz2JlEDBuLI

        And the accompanying video:

        http://youtu.be/r4PxWqC1EOU

  • DI

    Reblogged this on Children's Rights.

  • Jericho One

    Seems it’s finally sinking in that male ‘privilege’ is not all what it’s been cracked up to be…

  • Jericho One

    The common ‘complaint’ I hear regularly from women is that all the men they meet either don’t have cars or still live with parents. Now that women have all the median jobs and educational opportunities – they shouldn’t be surprised when prince charming turns up on a bicycle.