How would you feel if you were on a website devoted to fathers, and saw a man making the following comment on a discussion thread?
I’m a 45 year old father with a daughter (13) and son (15). We go swimming most weeks and we use the family change room, the showers are communal, where I make my daughter shower nude. We all use the same cubicle when changing but I make my daughter change first then make her leave so my son and I can get changed without my daughter seeing us nude. Should I show more dominance towards my daughter or is this enough to show my son that men are in charge?
I would hope that you would feel, as I would, appalled by such a story, and contact the people who ran the site in an effort to get this evil man tracked down, visited by the police, and her poor son allowed to shower as he wished in future, and to change in a cubicle on his own.
Last Thursday the party and I were attacked on the feminist website MumsNet http://www.mumsnet.com. In my customary manner I remained calm and posted links to our materials, and didn’t bother to read many of the hostile (but occasionally supportive) comments before the discussion thread was ‘pulled’.
The comment at the start of this piece – from an abusive father – never appeared on any website, but the day after the MumsNet attacks I was alerted by a contributor to the influential American website ‘A Voice for Men’ http://avoiceformen.com to a comment made on the MumsNet discussion thread, at 17:46:51 on Thursday:
I’m a 45 year old mother with a son (13) and daughter (15). We go swimming most weeks and we use the family change room, the showers are communal, where I make my son shower nude. We all use the same cubicle when changing but I make my son change first then make him leave so my daughter and I can get changed without my son seeing us nude. Should I show more dominance towards my son or is this enough to show my daughter that women are in charge?
The AVfM contributor called this an example of culturally-sanctioned child abuse, and I have to agree. I’ve emailed the CEO / Co-Founder of MumsNet, Justine Roberts Justine@mumsnet.com, asking her what action, if any, she’s taken, or plans to take, in respect to this matter. I shall post her response (if I receive one) here.