Author uncovers surprising secrets of female sexuality, including monogamy and rape / submission fantasies

Our thanks to Patrick for this. An extract, taking up the remainder of this blog piece:

The results of 10 separate studies so rattled sexologist Marta Meana that she was initially hesitant to talk about them: Between 30 and 60 percent of women reported frequently having what’s been termed “rape fantasies,” and many of the women who described their own daydreams were also disturbed. “If I truly believed in women’s equality with men,” said one, “then I’d have to have sex and imagine sex that reflected that — no domination, no rape fantasies. One result was that I married a nice liberal man who shared my convictions on how sex should be. Seven years later we divorced.”

Most experts believe that the number of women who have so-called rape fantasies is actually much higher, but the notion and nomenclature is so taboo few are willing to admit to it. One theory holds that the fantasies actually dial into female narcissism, the notion that one is so unbelievably desirable that a man — whether a professor or family friend or stranger — is so overcome with longing that he loses control. [J4MB: Maybe the fantasies also “dial into” female preference to avoid agency.]…

“I hate the term ‘rape fantasies,’ ” Meana says in the book. “In fantasy, we control the stimuli. In rape, we have no control. They’re really fantasies of submission.”

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  1. Of course non of this is down to the women. Its always somebody else whose responsible for any deviation from saintliness Doctors didn’t warn women of ‘risky sex’ drug urges – BBC News “Some of the women who described being drawn to risky sexual behaviour told us they had no idea of what was causing it. Others said they felt compelled to gamble or shop with no history of such activities. One accumulated debts of more than £150,000.” It seems remarkably unlikely things a diverse as shopping and nymphomania would be caused by the same medication. More likely, like alcohol, it reduces inhibitions and the results reflect latent desires.

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