The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence | Bettina Arndt

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  1. An excellent interview giving proper mention to Erin Pizzey. The points made will be no surprise to J4MB readers but it is good to see them made so succinctly and clearly. At the beginning of this century interest in “Dating Abuse” had crossed the Atlantic and caused concern in the UK. So there were 5 large scale research projects looking at representative populations of teenagers, including boys (I make this point because as we know research for decades for adults routinely ignores excludes males. Of course the basic paradigm was feminist. All produced “surprising” findings. Girls it turns out were more likely to hit boys than vice versa, more likely to report using abusive behaviors and more likely to justify punishment of boys. Both sexes agreed girls should never be hit at all and boys tended to not see abusive behaviors by girls as something to report but took a fatalistic view “its just what happens”. Of course all this was not a surprise to anyone with “common sense” as the injunction to boys never to hit girls is deep in our socialisation of boys (and Girls). By this time there had been 20 years of the feminist campaigns which were directed at girls and women, one effect being that the Girls were much more able to identify abusive behaviors, including their own! While boys were left to assume that their experience of being abused was just what happened. One typically gynocentric report did at least have the wisdom to suggest education for Girls in not being so quick to use physical abuse to “get his attention” or punishing “wandering eyes”, because at some point the boys’ forbearance would wear thin and they may hit back.
    Now of course, despite the request of each research team for further research in these unexpected findings, subsequently the same trajectory was followed as had happened in the early 1980s in adults. Research on specific special groups, of girls. Girls in care, Girls in gangs, Girls in homeless services, Girls in DV hostels with mothers. So of course the challenging findings of the large scale surveys were simply a dead end.

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