This week I’ve made a video with woman who is bravely speaking out and telling the truth about male suicide. Mary O’Brien is a rural consultant from Queensland who wrote an article on male suicide after losing two men in her community. But unlike most of the people dominating public debate about this issue, she actually told the truth, denouncing the talk about the problem being men not sharing their feelings and spelling out the link to relationship breakup and men despairing after being done over in our family law system.
Please help me promote the video of our conversation. Here’s the link: https://bit.ly/2NJTYG4
This all proved most timely when I then discovered that the Federal Government has just appointed a woman as National Suicide Prevention Officer. That’s such an appalling decision. I hope many of you will take up my call to protest this move. I have provided relevant research in the low bar, below the video, for you to use in your letters to MPs etc.
See below, the article I wrote about all this, published today in the Financial Review:
Whitewashing the truth of why men kill themselves
Relationship troubles, not mental health, lie behind the plague of male suicides, writes Bettina Arndt.
Imagine the outcry if a man was appointed head of a leading domestic violence prevention organisation? So how come the federal government has just proudly announced a woman, Christine Morgan, as National Suicide Prevention Officer? This is just the latest move by a government determined to deny the fact that suicide is overwhelmingly a male problem, with six out of eight of our daily suicides taking the lives of men.
Amazingly the recently released National Suicide Prevention Implementation Plan is proudly “gender neutral”, failing to acknowledge that men not only dominate suicide statistics but offering no special programmes to address the unique causes of male suicide, which differ dramatically from those of women who end their own lives.
The alleged link to mental health problems is the most glaring mistake. “Around 80 per cent of people who die by suicide have a mental health issue,” declared ScoMo yesterday when announcing Morgan’s appointment. No, Prime Minister. That’s simply not true of men, the major group at risk. Australian research shows over half of all male suicides, 78 per cent of male farmer suicides and 83 per cent of suicides in older men were not predominantly associated with a mental health diagnosis – according to the Australian Institute of Suicide Research and Prevention and other related studies.
The government proudly declares they are working towards a zero suicide goal yet the PM lists as those most at risk, “veterans, Indigenous Australians and young people”. Not one word about the most vulnerable group – the ordinary men, particularly family men in their 30s and 40s losing their families.
That’s the elephant in the room that our governments are determined to ignore. There’s solid evidence that the major cause of suicide in this country is not mental health problems but rather the toll taken by family break-up, where fathers often face mighty battles trying to stay part of their children’s lives, up against a biased family law system which fails to enforce contact orders, and often facing false violence allegations which are now routinely used to gain advantage in family court battles. Research by the Australian Institute of Suicide Research and Prevention found that almost half of male suicides are linked with relationship issues, one in 20 are linked to child custody issues, one in 10 to pending legal matters. That’s the glaring gender difference – with male suicide three to four times more likely than female suicide to be linked to relationship break-up and child custody.
This evidence has been accumulating for years and no one wants to talk about it. Remember that lavish ABC series, Man Up, made by radio star Gus Worland? Hours of television focusing on the high male suicide rate, endlessly discussing why men won’t talk about their feelings – and barely a word about why men are killing themselves. Last year Worland’s new charity, Gotcha4Life, raised nearly half a million dollars to “save the lives of men suffering mental illness”, money to be spent mainly on programmes in schools teaching boys to express their feelings.
Whenever there’s a known link to female suicide, like post-partum depression, the money pours in to properly address the problem. Yet men struggling to deal with the devastating consequences of dealing with family break-up are given no support. Key organisations providing support for men in these circumstance – like Dads in Distress – face constant battles for funding.
Maybe it is time for the quiet Australians to speak out about this shocking whitewashing of the proper facts about suicide in this country. Contact your MP, ring radio stations, use social media posts to protest the government’s wrong-fisted handling of this important social issue. The six men dying each day in Australia deserve the truth to be told.
Queenslanders I need you!
I am currently trying to finalise my speaking tour, aimed at mobilising quiet Australians, particularly women, to take action against inequities in our increasingly anti-male culture. I’m now calling it the #MenToo Tour rather than advertising it as an attack on feminism, because I feel it will attract more people, particularly mothers of adult sons, to come on board if I soft peddle a little.
We are thinking of starting the national tour in Queensland in early September and FanForce is going to help find venues and give support to local groups willing to promote the events. We are currently considering talks in Brisbane, Gold Coast, Bundaberg, and possibly Rockhampton and Townsville but will need local folk in each of these places willing to help promote the talks through social media and local networks. You won’t need to be publicly associated with the event – FanForce will act as the official host.
Please urgently get in touch with me if you are willing to help or can put me in touch with other useful people or networks. We can still vary the locations if you have other ideas where there are active local communities willing to get involved.
UK Men’s Rights Action, our official supporters’ Facebook page, is here.
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