Niceguy: “Land of the Losers”

It’s not every day you encounter a book with testimonials from both Erin Pizzey and Janice Fiamengo, but one such is Niceguy’s Land of the Losers. Niceguy is an American man who lives and works in Japan. From his website:

Call me Niceguy.

I like to think of myself as a decent human being. I buy drinks for my friends when we go out. I help others when they’re going through tough times. I treat animals kindly. If I could jump off the screen right now, I’d go and make us both a big bowl of popcorn just so we could sit down and enjoy it together. In short, I’m the kind of guy that others refer to as “nice.”

Women have often asked me to fix their computers, prepare their taxes, help move their furniture, or assist them with their homework. They’d ask me to pick them up when they’d missed the last bus, they’d ask me to loan them money when they were in a jam, and they’d ask me to bring snacks in the middle of the night. And since I’m nice, I was always happy to help. Unfortunately, none of the women I put myself out for were ever interested in reciprocating. Help was suddenly unavailable whenever I was the one who needed it. “Oh, you’re such a good friend!” I’d hear each time I was exploited. This wouldn’t bother me so much except for the fact that refusing requests to be exploited was always met with a wall of disapproval.

Guys like me were brought up to believe that if we always tried our best, and were beacons of kindness and generosity in a world filled with thugs and cads, we would inevitably find a girl who would love us and accept us for who we were. Instead, those traits seemed to disqualify me from any sort of romantic arrangement, and I’m pretty sure I’m not alone here. Whenever I’d ask a woman out, she’d inevitably tell me that I was far too much like a brother to her, or that she didn’t want to spoil our friendship. Such rejections were always followed with sincere assurances that when I eventually found a girlfriend, she would be so lucky to have a guy like me. Yes, a woman of grace and understanding was just around the corner, merely awaiting my displays of affection to fall right into my arms.

Well that’s a myth. A fraud. A big damn lie. Now that I live in exile from my native culture, I can see that dating and romance in the West is a heavily skewed affair. It sees love and romance almost strictly in terms of what the female wants. What the female expects. What the female demands. The male is mere fodder. He needs to step up to the plate and work hard, and he needs to change to suit his woman’s needs. She on the other hand, should just be herself, no matter how horrible or deceitful that may be.

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Reminder: MGM – Yasmeen Khan, BBC Three Counties Radio presenter, to host a discussion, 6pm TONIGHT

BBC Three Counties Radio (Beds, Herts & Bucks) is the home of Jonathan Vernon-Smith – ‘JVS’ – to the best of our knowledge the only British radio show presenter to have hosted substantive discussions about MGM since 2016. Other presenters have recently come on board, following the possibility that MGM might be made illegal by the Icelandic government, but few have hosted live-on-air discussions between anti-MGM campaigners and religious proponents. My four interviews on MGM with JVS are on our YouTube channel (29.1.16, 19.4.16, 8.12.16, 20.2.18). In each case I was debating with JVS and Jewish proponents of the practice.

I’ve been interviewed twice about MGM by Julia Hartley-Brewer, again the files are on our YouTube channel (3.10.16, 30.6.17).

This evening I’ll be in a discussion with Manzoor Moghul, Chairman of the Muslim Forum, shortly after 6pm on Yasmeen Khan’s Show on BBC Three Counties Radio. I hope to inform him of the Muslim anti-MGM website Quranic Path, also to direct him towards William Collins’s three pieces debunking the claimed medical benefits of MGM – Part 1, Part 2, Part 3. Far more than Jews, in my experience, Muslims claim medical benefits for MGM.

I’ve been told to expect a discussion lasting 10-15 minutes, after which the lines will open to callers. I invite you to call in – 08081 008800 – Yasmeen’s show will continue until 8pm. Thanks.