Our thanks to Jeff for this. Etiquette rulebooks would, of course, be anathema to feminists. Their wish is for power over men, and this is best served by being able to redefine past behaviour as it suits them. A consensual sexual encounter with a man, which the woman regrets the next morning, maybe after the man makes it clear he’s not seeking a long-term relationship? She can redefine the consensual sex as rape, the identity of her victim is plastered all over the media. An extract from the piece on Margaret Attwood:
She [Attwood] said that Me Too works “as a tool or as a weapon, under certain circumstances” – including in the entertainment industry and politics.
Referring to the backlash levelled against her, Atwood said she was concerned that that was was “fairly standard” for “anyone who says anything except, ‘I believe anything that a woman says’.”
“I think it’s quite dangerous to accord infallibility to any group – including men, Popes and women,” she added.
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Attwood is perfectly sensible. However a movement that embraces being a “slut” and exploring sex as empowering “play” while at the same time equates “male gaze” with Rape and treats a penis as an offensive weapon, clearly is complete nonsense. The problem is of course its dangerous nonsense as evidenced by the almost daily evidence of injustice actual and potential.
How can there be “Rape” meaning sex regretted or not as expected, if sexual expression is health giving play? Rape comes from a time where the rules were clear, sex was important, linked inextricably to procreation and marriage. It could indeed spell “ruin”. But in a society that lauds almost all sexual expression as positive, essential even. How can instances of “bad” sex be any other than a minor misdemeanour? A mess.
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Feminists will of course want to write the new etiquette rulebook, calling it a ‘living document’ so they can change the rules on a whim (after all, it’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind). It would be more sensible for men to wear body cameras, which will soon be technically feasible and affordable (consider the increasing popularity of dash-mounted cameras). Combine the technology with increasingly sophisticated software (such as face and voice recognition) and you will have a powerful tool for holding women accountable. They won’t like it one bit.
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Why is it that leading feminists who have spend their lives (and made their careers) tearing down men (like Atwood and Greer) are suddenly making more sense than their younger acolytes?
I grew up disliking both women and their brand of feminism, but they are considerably less triumphalist now than I would have expected (if it had been me, I would have been gloating my head off to see the post-Weinstein carnage my ideology had wrought recently), considering their brand of identity politics is built around breaking the social system which empowers rich, old, white guys.
Is it because they are post-menopausal now, and some sanity has leeched into their skulls along with the rise in testosterone? I’m not the only one to have noticed this, as bitchy intra-feminist squabbling like this piece makes all too clear: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/07/feminists-advance-prominent-women-metoo
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