Our thanks to Ian McNicholl, a former victim of extreme domestic violence at the hands of his female partner, for RTing a piece (by a female journalist, inevitably) in the Express. It ends with this:
Anyone affected by the issues raised in the episode should contact Refuge (www.refuge.org.uk) or Women’s Aid (www.womensaid.org.uk). The charities run the 24-hour, freephone National Domestic Violence Helpline 0808 2000 247.
You might reasonably assume the National Domestic Violence Helpline would support both male and female victims of domestic violence. You’d be wrong. The text content of the website’s home page:
Are you experiencing domestic violence?
Do you know of someone who is experiencing abuse and may need help and support?
The Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline, run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge, [J4MB emphasis] is a national service for women [J4MB emphasis] experiencing domestic violence, their family, friends, colleagues and others calling on their behalf.The Helpline can give support, help and information over the telephone, wherever the caller might be in the country. The Helpline is staffed 24 hours a day by fully trained female [J4MB emphasis] helpline support workers and volunteers. All calls are completely confidential. Translation facilities for callers whose first language is not English, and a service for callers who are deaf or hard of hearing are available.
In an article concerning the TV portrayal of a male victim of domestic violence at the hands of a woman, presumably watched by millions of people, would it have been so difficult to point male victims to Mankind Initiative? Ian McNicholl, who RT’d the Express piece, is an Ambassador for Mankind. He’ll be speaking at the conference in July, his talk title being, “My journey from victim to survivor”. The talk description:
Between September 2006 and May 2008 Ian migrated from being a picture of health, a home owner, a successful businessman who was financially comfortable, to a permanently scarred, registered disabled, homeless benefits claimant, on the verge of bankruptcy. Domestic abuse was the sole cause of this transformation.
The conference speaker list is here, you can order your ticket(s) here, up to 31 March.
There’s not necessarily a problem with the people “manning” the helpline being female – it depends on their sympathies. The Mankind Initiative helpline is run by women.
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Good point , the equivalent helplines in Ireland (Amen) and Scotland (AMIS) were founded by women. It is the feminists who constantly go on about “all female” services and we need not be as sexist.
On a positive point it was heartening to see ,a woman, win an important case declaring the practice of “screening” male callers to helplines illegal.
It is good to remember the issue is the ideology not the sex, after all few women in the general population pay much attention to the current crop of feminists, the problem is that they are embedded in the sorts of people who are influential. I urge people to assist Mankind, Amen and AMIS as they struggle for funds. They seek to support men not because of political ideology but because they see the need.
One of the great “successes” and tools of feminism is to drive wedges between men and women through fostering resentments and fears.
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” the problem is that they are embedded in the sorts of people who are influential….”
Indeed. We have seen governments seek advice from The Fawcett Society, for example, and respond with law changes to loud feminist minorities.
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Many men prefer to talk to genuinely sympathetic women, and a lot of women are sympathetic to men’s problems.
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I’ve tried leaving comments on the article linking to Men’s Aid and the Mankind Initiative alas, to no avail. I’m assuming they require approval from a moderator before posting.
Link for reference: https://www.facebook.com/TheScreenOnYourScreen/posts/482323055501595
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