Our thanks to Nigel for this. He writes:
“Wow. Here’s a surprise. Actually asking men. “Andy” the first view printed sums it up well:
“I’m expected to put the vast majority of effort into dating. I take the risk of rejection in doing the asking out, I arrange the date, usually carry the conversation, frequently am expected to pay, then this process repeats for future dates. The majority of women I met seemed to think turning up was all that’s required for me to ‘woo’ them.”
As he says “articles like this complaining about men while making out that women are great sum up why.” men don’t want to put themselves through such events. Unsurprisingly those that report how they met their partner/wife refer to shared activity. If you think about it precisely what one would expect from men’s preferred communication style! No wonder in reality the place most people meet their partner is work or sports or hobbies etc. Not some “Job interview” format where they’re quite likely to be rejected. As one says if its been a good afternoons activity and you’re rejected at least you had a good time. However no doubt the “amazing” women will continue with singles nights and continue to blame men for not turning up to them. Definitely not actually asking men what might attract them.”
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