I don’t think we’ve ever had an email from a Chinese person (living in China) before. Our thanks to J for this, it takes up the remainder of this blog piece:
Hi sir!
I’m a student from China. I experienced a lot of unfair treatment in school as a boy. Also, I have seen how far extreme feminists have gone in China, I hope you can read this.
The online discourse nowadays in China is a circus. When men work hard, they’re called “grinding dogs”; when women work hard, they’re “career queens.” When men talk about money, they’re “materialistic and greasy”; [J4MB: greedy?] when women talk about money, they’re “clear-headed and independent.”
When men complain, it’s “mansplaining”; when women complain, it’s “brave speaking out.”
On Weibo and Douban, those extreme feminists yell every day “all men are potential rapists” and “men deserve to die,” and the platforms don’t give a damn. But if a man dares to say “feminism has gone too far,” his account gets banned instantly.
In online dramas, demonizing men has become the norm—fathers are either dumb or evil, husbands are either cheating or useless. Meanwhile, the female lead must be strong and independent, even if it makes zero sense, just to fit the “girlboss” fantasy.
Even worse, some platforms shout about “gender equality” while ruthlessly suppressing male victim stories. When a woman is domestically abused? Entire internet explodes in anger, trending everywhere, millions showing support. When a man is abused? Comment section full of “LOL, what kind of loser gets beaten by his wife?” “He must’ve deserved it,” “Haha, another henpecked husband!”
The education system is basically a massive brainwashing camp now, feeding boys the idea from day one (this is personal experience):
“You must yield to girls,” “Men should always be tolerant toward women.”
Girls steal your stuff? Teacher says, “You’re a boy, don’t be petty.”
Girls hit you first? Teacher says, “Girls are emotional, it’s normal.”
Girls start shit deliberately? Teacher says, “A real man doesn’t fight girls.”
Meanwhile those girls grow more arrogant by the day, pushing their luck shamelessly.
And worst of all, law is supposed to be fair for everyone but as I delve into legal texts, I find that this ‘women first’ mentality has permeated judicial practice. According to 2022 data from the Supreme Court, the registration rate for domestic violence cases involving men is only 18.7%, much lower than 91.3% for women; in divorce cases, fathers’ custody rights are granted only 31.5% of the time, 37 percentage points lower than mothers; in cases of intentional injury, women are 42% more likely to receive probation compared to men. A 2021 survey by the Guangdong Women’s Federation revealed that in school violence incidents, the proportion of girls being seriously disciplined after committing violence is less than one-third that of boys. For instance, in January 2023, in Gulu District, Xuzhou, despite the husband Zhang providing hospital injury reports and surveillance of his wife chasing him with a knife, the police refused to file a case citing ‘family conflict’. In the same year, in May, in the same jurisdiction, Wang (female) reported being pushed by her husband and the case was immediately investigated and filed.
Furthermore, in a bar brawl case in March 2021 in Xiacheng District, Hangzhou, Wang (male) was sentenced to 10 months for causing minor injuries at Level 2, whereas 13 days later in the same area, Li (female) also caused Level 2 minor injuries in a similar altercation but received only a 6-month sentence.
Overall, I cannot express in words how much I appreciate and respect your work, I hope when I grow up I can be just like you sir! [J4MB emphasis: What a noble ambition!]
With all respect,
J.
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