Our thanks to Mary for her email, reproduced here with her kind permission. It takes up the remainder of this blog piece:
Dear Mike,
Even though I’m a woman, I am sick and tired of assertive/aggressive, argumentative, ‘always right’, ‘marvellous’, multi-tasking women who seem to despise men yet depend on an army of ‘door-mat’ husbands, partners, parents, other and other women to clean, garden and provide cheap child-care. If friends and family aren’t available or able, then the state will provide; apparently it’s the ‘State’s duty’ to look after our children; what a golden opportunity for feminist, left-wing indoctrination which produces a whole generation of self-centred, impossible women!
As an ex-teacher, I have seen this in operation and the ‘Feminist Army’ muscle you out, if you are not in favour – that is if you want to be ‘feminine’ and not ‘feminist’ and you deign to look after a man. The result of this lack of tolerance and lack of altruism is a pure selfishness where it is more important to have holidays, meals out, new outfits, dyed hair, fake tans, false nails, and that bigger house or better car or whatever than to care for those we should love. Often women are working unnecessarily leaving them exhausted and fractious with no time for partners or children – the answer to stick children in front of screens of one sort or another to take them to after-school clubs, holiday clubs or where-ever they can dump them so that they can avoid the stress of dealing with them or unwind at the gym.
These marvellous women go into melt -down when their partner is away.
What is more worrying is the way that women use men. I have friends who have young, male teachers in the family who dare not open their mouths in the staff-room for fear of being lambasted. Men live in fear of asking women out, accidentally touching them or reprimanding them for something in case they are accused of harassment. Many are terrified of losing their jobs – as a woman can, quite easily destroy a man – because – ‘once-accused’, even if innocent, there is always that element of doubt. Women are using sex still to control men and what are men getting? They often don’t keep their own children when relationships go wrong and there is the woman in a nice house and the poor ‘Saturday Dad’ in a flat. (I have seen this whilst living in a mid-terrace property surrounded by Single Mums and I certainly do not believe that children are becoming more resilient. We cannot gauge the effect of all this on the mental state of youngsters. So many are growing up with streams of ‘Substitute Fathers’ coming and going in their homes.
I’m not saying that all men are angels -but there is good and bad in most of us. However, all these women who have acquired the worst attributes of men, drinking, swearing, coming onto the opposite sex etc -would not like it if they were to become a man because these women want superiority (undeserved) not equality. Even in the work-place so many are part-time, taking off Mondays and Fridays, going home at lunch-time – leaving all the difficult work to men and having ante-natal, post-natal and stress-related leave – not to mention all the going off to deal with family problems and having to go home with various ‘feminine issues’.(periods, menopause etc).
I have seen for myself what is going on with these dating sites – Women put up almost pornographic pictures(not that they’re sex=-object of course!). They will say, ‘got the car’, got the job, want a man to do the D.I.Y and put the bins out. They often say they want someone to split the rent or the mortgage with or someone with a certain salary or they will not go out with anyone who votes Tory or who eats meat etc . What would they think if a man said that?
I could go on, but I will not as what I would like is for this conversation to start. As I see it, all this is costing the State a fortune and sacrificing the physical and mental well-being of all concerned – basically for materialistic reasons and, in my view, this generation has everything (materially) but nothing that matters. It is because we are conditioned to want more of everything and are not content until we have it. I firmly believe that if the ‘Mother Bird’ did not desert the nest, then the fledglings would be all right. Most should be able to sustain a reasonable life-style on one salary – building a future gradually as a family.
I would be pleased to hear your views,
(Mrs) Mary Rickard
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Very typical of my experience in Social Work as it has changed to be Graduate only entry. I’d observe there is a big difference between the office based “graduate” branch of Social Work and the female workforce that actually does the hands on care work. I suspect a contrast that is reflected in other occupations where the University educated seem far more self absorbed and fantastical.
And of course in “costing the state” all this is in fact costing tax payers as the State has no money of its own. I have commented on the nonsense in social care of a set of services actively conniving at the break up of stable family units and promoting “chaotic families” . And then paying £billions each year in childrens’ homes, fostering and adoption, mentoring and male role model schemes; attempting to reproduce the conditions in the maligned “traditional family”.
As Mary points out on a simple practical level, a workforce that is also part time even when supposedly full time, is not able to deliver services. And we see the decline in our public services as a result, the nonsense of “wfh” and “compressed” hours just adding to the ineffectiveness and sheer absence of service that people constantly experience from all our public services. The sort of thing that is hugely damaging too to our productive sectors, which are those that generate the wealth that is taxed, in one way or another, to fund those public services. All in all it should surprise no one that our productivity overall has “flatlined” for nearly 20 years, if vast chunks of our workforce think its OK to fit work into their “lifestyle choices” rather than actually serve customers.
In my sector there are so few men in fact it is often the women who are angry as they have to cover the work of their far less productive “sistas” and tend to be less generous than the men about all the time off, for instance having little sympathy for period or menopause as reasons for regular time off while male managers just give in pdq.
Lets be honest few people of either or any “gender” have “careers they love” most work in something they find tolerable for the money. So developing a huge variety of ways to have time off without sacrificing the pay is attractive. But not of course to those paying. In a way until recently we’ve managed to contain this to female dominated occupations that are mainly publicly funded or administrative. But maybe now we’re seeing to rot set in overall as younger men think equality means they too can be subsidized too.
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An example of of the privileged status. Wes Streeting dumps women’s health target from NHS plan Of course Streeting hasn’t dumped anything, the NHS simple can’t afford to set up a whole string of women’s health “hubs”. On almost every measure the reality is men’s health and healthcare outcomes are worse than for women. Yet Streeting is bombarded by supposedly “marginalised” women demanding they get preferential treatment. There is little pressure to even come up with the promised health strategy for men, even though it is actually what is needed to address the real “gap” between the sexes in terms of the service they get from the NHS and address the access and late diagnosis issues that mean men are more likely to die. But it turns out we even have a government funded “tzar” for women’s health, even though anyone can see in their contacts with any part of the NHS that it is organised around the needs and priorities of women.
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