An interesting new piece by Peter Lloyd:

http://www.avoiceformen.com/women/hypergamy/conception-by-deception-amanda-holden-rapes-her-husband/

We know from a Freedom of Information request to the CSA that for some years over 500 men annually have successfully challenged women’s claims that they’re the biological fathers of individual babies or children. To be fair to them, many of these women may simply be unsure who their babies’ and children’s fathers are. Many more men surely, and naively, accept these women’s claims that they’re the biological fathers, and work maybe 20+ years to financially support offspring who aren’t biologically their own – in addition to the men in long-term relationships who are deceived in the same way. Would we expect women to work 20+ years to support offspring who weren’t their own, biologically speaking? No, of course we wouldn’t. And people ask why J4MB campaigns for compulsory paternity testing at birth…

At the recent National Conference for Male Victims of Domestic Violence, one of the numerous strong presentations stood out for me, and I’m sure for most of the 120+ people in the audience. It was the presentation given by Ian McNicholl, a survivor of domestic violence. In the final attack Ian’s partner assaulted him with a hammer, breaking numerous bones, including a part of his skull around one eye. This is a PDF of the slides he presented at the conference:

131022 Ian McNicoll, survivor of domestic violence

The slides should be self-explanatory. Slide #1 is of Ian giving advice to the actor who plays the character ‘Tyrone’ in Coronation Street. The programme had a storyline in which Tyrone was a victim of domestic violence. Slide #6 includes an image of the hammer with which Ian was attacked.

The Daily Express covered Ian’s story in November 2011:

http://www.express.co.uk/expressyourself/360259/We-are-the-battered-husbands

From Ian’s commentary in the article:

The night before she was arrested in May 2008 I endured an attack that lasted almost seven hours, during which she beat me with a metal bar and smashed my body in various places with a hammer.

Unknown to me, the boyfriend of my neighbour’s daughter had heard the commotion and had called 999 fearing for my life.

My injuries were so severe that doctors initially thought they would have to amputate my arm.

Although Michelle’s sentences totalled 18 years, she was told if she behaved in prison she’d be out in seven years. That was in 2008. Incredibly, she was let out on licence two months ago.

Michelle Williamson served only three and a half years in prison.

Ian was registered disabled after the attack, and he still has mobility and eyesight problems which aren’t going to go away. He was homeless for a time, too, there being no available place in refuges for male victims of DV – hardly surprising given there are so few available, 15 nationally at the last count, compared with 4,000+ places for female victims of DV.

Ian told the conference he asked his ex-partner for an explanation of why she’d attacked him so violently, and an apology. He’s never received either.

If I live to be 100, I don’t imagine I’ll ever witness another presentation so moving. Many people in the 120+ strong audience – both women and men – were in tears, or holding back tears with difficulty. Ian was an inspiration. He didn’t appear to have any self-pity, he saw himself as the survivor of a nightmare. It was an honour after his presentation to meet him, shake his hand, and talk briefly with him. A humbling experience, which brings a lump to my throat even now. He spoke in his presentation of having come close to committing suicide. I haven’t the slightest doubt that had I gone through what he did, I’d have taken my life.

Female-on-male domestic violence is one of many contributors to the persistently high male suicide rate, about which the government has no interest. The latest official statistics (2011/12) showed the male/female suicide rate differential as 3.5:1. As recently as 1981 – when gendered suicide rates were first published in the UK – it was 1.9:1. The differential has almost doubled in just 30 years. The female rate has declined substantially, while the male rate has increased.

Many of the government’s policy directions – including not enabling fathers to see their children, when vindictive ex-partners decide they will deny them access – surely contribute significantly to the high male suicide rate.

[Note added 18.3.14: Three months before the conference Ian appeared (speaking on the phone, not an easy way to be interviewed) on an episode of Woman’s Hour in which the feminists in the studio maintained their men-shaming narratives. Disgraceful. From our YouTube channel:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Gn4gA5hkxw ]

[Note added 21.3.14: The two lady psychologists who spoke at the same conference were in a BBC studio earlier in the day, being interviewed for Woman’s Hour. They did very well, even after the presenter made a really crass remark about victims of domestic violence in her introduction. The interview – also drawn from our YouTube channel – is well worth listening to:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Gn4gA5hkxw ]

Ian’s story isn’t unique, of course. But this is neither the time nor the place to trot out the shocking statistics on male victims of domestic violence. I would therefore ask you to do something practical to help people like Ian, and to support Mankind Initiative, one of the very few charities in the UK which supports male victims of DV. You can make a donation through the link below. Thank you.

http://www.mankind.org.uk/

It’s always a treat when a feminist comes out with some home truths which will make other feminists apoplec apopecl angry. Especially when it’s the scrumptious Nigella Lawson. If she’s a feminist, then I’m a daffodil. Enjoy:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2469672/Nigella-Lawson-says-feminism-blame-womens-dread-kitchen.html

 

 

 

A small proportion of our female supporters are stay-at-home mothers. One, Cheryl, is sick to death of being criticised by other women (and feminists in particular) for her decision – fully supported by her husband – to look after their three young children full-time. The children are a testament to the care they’re receiving at her hands. Our thanks to her for pointing us in the direction of this article:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2469315/Dr-Aric-Sigman-Stay-home-mums-face-prejudice-assuming-lazy-stupid.html

 

The leniency shown by the police and the wider justice system to women who physically assault men is a scandal. Sometimes it’s also shown to women who’ve assaulted other women. An appalling recent example from Lincolnshire:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2470138/Mother-knocked-encouraged-Lincolnshire-police-accept-150-compensation.html

 

Our thanks to Tony for pointing us towards a most interesting blog:

http://exinjuria.wordpress.com

We’ve just added it to our list of 160+ recommended blogs and websites:

https://j4mbdotorgdotuk.wordpress.com/recommended-blogs-and-other-websites/

From the blog’s ‘About’ page:

Ex injuria jus non oritur – Law does not arise from injustice.

And yet it is from the injustice of family law that this occasional blog has arisen, in an attempt to inform, educate, provoke and occasionally amuse, and to express my philosophy that good can come even from a great wrong.

I am a researcher for a number of equal parenting organisations, a moderator of internet forums and a campaigner for openness, truth and justice.  Most of all, I am a father, a son, and – in the fullness of time – a husband.

Tony drew our attention to one of the blog posts:

http://exinjuria.wordpress.com/2013/10/17/an-exercise-in-absolute-futility-chapter-seven/

He particularly recommended the following extract, which takes up the remainder of this post:

Another familiar claim is that two women each week are murdered by a current or former male partner.  The true number is about six women each month; nowhere is the corresponding statistic mentioned: that three men each month are murdered by current or former female partners (Povey, Coleman, Kaiza, & Roe, 2009).  Or there’s the popular claim that domestic violence is the leading cause of ill health (or even death) in women, which is quoted by the Home Office, the Home Affairs Select Committee, the Crown Prosecution Service, the Ministry of Justice and others, demonstrating the typical dispersal pattern of a rogue statistic.  This figure also is false: homicide is not even in the top ten leading causes of death.  The Home Office, an early source of the bogus figure, defends it as merely ‘illustrative’, while others maintain that while the figure isn’t true, it should not be challenged, because domestic violence is such an important issue.

In 2001 the Prime Minister’s wife, Cherie Blair, presented an award to Kiranjit Ahluwalia at the Asian Women Awards ceremony for the laudable achievement of pouring petrol – bought for the purpose – onto her husband Deepak while he slept and setting fire to him.

He took six days to die.

Her defence, that she had only intended to cause pain, failed: she had assaulted him several times previously and was convicted of murder.  After re-education by the Southall Black Sisters she claimed on appeal that she had lived in fear of him, and had killed him because he was about to leave her.  Deepak was not available to confirm either claim.

In the most disgusting display of politicised misandry Cherie Blair hailed Ahluwalia as a ‘true role model for the next generation’ (BBC, 2001); once again the Government incited violence against men merely accused of a gender crime – it is unlikely we’ll see many men similarly fêted for killing their wives: Ahluwalia was courted by the media, signed a book deal and was even the subject of a film.  This madness became embodied in legislation in the form of the Coroners and Justice Act 2009, launched by women’s minister Harriet Harman, which introduced the twin measures of allowing a woman accused of murdering her husband the defences that she was the victim of ‘serious wrong’ or feared she would be the victim of violence, and removed the defence – most often used by men – of provocation.  The Lord Chief Justice, Lord Judge, declared, ‘I don’t think this is a sensible way for us to proceed’ (BBC, 2010b).

One effect of the law, by specifically excluding infidelity from the category of serious wrong and thereby trivialising it, was further to undermine marriage; as with ‘no-fault’ divorce, fault now lay with the betrayed party, and morality was turned on its head.  It was far from gender-neutral: women could kill in cold blood and with calculation, but if they claimed they ‘feared’ violence the charge would be reduced to manslaughter.  Thus cold-blooded killing was no longer murder, while killing in the heat of the moment during a temporary loss of control was.  This separated intent from the grievousness of a crime; it was not just an attack on men, it was a neo-Marxist assault on the moral underpinnings of society and its laws.  In 2012 Lord Judge defied the new law, allowing the appeal of a man who had killed his serially unfaithful wife: excluding infidelity from cases in which it was integral risked ‘injustice’ (R v Clinton, 2012).

My thanks to Tony for alerting me to the interesting Wikiquote entry on Camille Paglia http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Camille_Paglia. She’s an American author, scholar, and critic, now 66 years old. The Wikiquote entry is well worth reading in full, but my eye was caught by two pieces from just two pages (pp 37, 38) of Sexual Personae (1990). I’ve long been told the second was once uttered by Germaine Greer in a British television interview, but have never been able to verify that, so it’s good to find what appears to be its true source. Enjoy:

One of feminism’s irritating reflexes is its fashionable disdain for ‘patriarchal society’, to which nothing good is ever attributed. But it is patriarchal society that has freed me as a woman. It is capitalism that has given me the leisure to sit at this desk writing this book. Let us stop being small-minded about men and freely acknowledge what treasures their obsessiveness has poured into culture.

If civilization had been left in female hands, we would still be living in grass huts.

AVfM has just republished an impressive and revealing piece by a British Honey Badger, Elly Tams (QuietRiotGirl). It was first published by AVfM in August 2012. Her blog is at http://quietriotgirl.wordpress.com. Enjoy:

http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/thedailybeast-abc2020-leaving-the-sisterhood-a-recovering-feminist-speaks-thedailybeast-abc2020

A new post from AVfM, introduced by Dr Tara J Palmatier as follows:

It’s day 19 of Domestic Violence Awareness Month for Men and Boys, the invisible victims of domestic violence. Falling in love with an abusive, personality disordered woman is like living a fairy tale in reverse.

A man falls in love with what he thinks is a beautiful princess or damsel in distress, only to watch her morph into the destructive, devouring witch. In today’s In His Owns Words, Peter shares the story of how the beautiful girl he thought he fell in love with turned into a raging, violent narcissistic bitch.

Peter’s account:

http://www.avoiceformen.com/updates/in-his-own-words-narcissistic-woman/

Diana Davison is an increasingly well-known American Honey Badger. Her articles on AVfM are always well worth reading, being both insightful and powerful. So I was interested to be informed of her video – on the subject of ‘rape culture’ – as I can’t recall having seen any videos of her before. I’m pleased to report the quality of the analysis in this video is right up there with the quality of the analysis in her articles, and we can only hope she makes many more:

http://www.avoiceformen.com/updates/diana-davison-its-a-rapey-rapey-rapey-world/